Marriage, as the name suggest (and we brought up inherited with the values) is the most pure and unbreakable invisible knot, at-least for we Indians. But as I grow up, and able to under this thing much better ,I come to know that there is nothing like pure and unbreakable in more than 80% of our Indian marriage chart. And here I am talking about India which is earlier known for the same.Marriage here was JANAM JANMANTAR or 7 JANAM KA BANDHAN.
What if a girl don't want to live with the boy or vice versa. Do they always need to adjust or the girl always should be independent or working to take her own responsibility. And the top of that why she is answerable to others for her own life.I mean these things are not at all acceptable to my brain at-least. Education is not always to,get a good job only but it teaches us how to carry our life and what is good or bad in our own point of view. Nobody is GYAANI here in this world who can make norms for the society not even the saints whom we think have the best knowledge of world,life and death. For me its all about you,what you want with your life and what you want to do for your self-respect.
Compromise, yet another term used by the flock of old age aunties who thinks that this is only a thing which makes a marriage successful. But in actual if you are happy while compromising in many things(which is barely possible) that means you are not living for yourself but your main agenda is to carry this thing to an end. But what is the actual end for you all??? To die after so much fights, arguments and disinterest??
We all are born for a reason and not to please everyone at least if we are not happy from inside. I strongly believe that we can only make others happy, if only we are happy so do whatever you like the most because marriage doesn’t mean to change yourself or your views ,as per your partner, but to provide them too some knowledge, so that ultimately the whole world can change.
I have met many boys in my 27 years of life and I realized the fact that after getting so much of education and qualifications they have, still 80% of them are mamma’s boy and can’t accept what their wives are saying. Rather being supportive towards their wives, who are also adjusting in(most of the time not so cool)a opposite environment as they experienced in their own home, men only consider what their mothers are saying because this is I feel,inserted in their body by the time of nursing them by their mommies. In our country 70% of divorce happens because of continuous interference of in-laws, whether it is of bride’s or Groom’s. Yes you read correct; in many cases girl’s parents also play the role of a marriage destroyer because of their continuous unwanted advices to their daughters. Our elders always said that stop chasing the western culture but in my views, accept what is right whether it is about culture or mentality. Think broad. My advice to this generation couples is, live happily and chase your dreams. Also life partner means, now you have somebody else too, who can help you to fulfill your dreams and not that conservative one who ruined your career or life goals. Then only marriage will not be a JABARDASTI KA BANDHAN kind of thing.
Rest 30% of divorce happens due to extra marital affairs. Have a look on this point too. Why people bound to opt for extra marital affair. These days the rate is increased in women also. After reading this people may think that I am a feminist but seriously what thing force her to put the marriage on stake, I have the answer for this too. Sex is the main reason and requirement. Some are so adjusting with whatever they have and do not demand and cross question because of so many reasons like upbringing, or may be because people thinks that girl should not ask for sex first because it defines her bad character in front of her husband but some seriously need to fulfill their body’s requirement and if it is not fulfilled by the male of the house, they bound to search for some other options. I know it is not cool for many but we should understand that it can drag her to an enormous depression sooner or later . Yes women also want good sex and she is not only a toy kind of thing with whom one can play. she also has some likes or dislikes on bed and if she is not enjoying that ,it means one day she will definitely move on. Education make her bold enough to take a step and raise a voice for herself. There should be a proper understanding from both the parties otherwise things can go horribly wrong at any point of time. So all, please try to understand your spouse and give them some space so that a girl can think beyond roti sabji households and boy too can think beyond earning only bread butter. Life is much more than all these things so enjoy before its too late to regret. Spread love and peace because the world and people need it the most.
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