As this issue is little bit old and everybody knows its adverse effect, even then no body is ready to remove this evil.yes i am talking about "Dowry System".
If we organize a debate, i am damn sure,many of people will come to stage and give lectures because for them it is just a speech as they are not suffered by this evil.It can happens with any girl and i can also be the victim of this evil which destroy not only the life of a girl but her whole family...........
Parents give gifts to their daughter at the time of her marriage just because to help her financially and actually in this there is no problem because giving gift to someone is a part of our culture and when parents give gifts to their daughter,it becomes sign of love and care.But now a days the definition is changed......now the groom's family think that taking dowry is our right and if the bride's parents deny to fulfill their unethical demands, the life of the girls will be in trouble.
We generally think that this only happens in arrange marriages where both the parties are not known and understanding between them is less as compared to love marriage where probability of demand is low. I also thought the same but today,one incident changed my perception. Meera was very beautiful and worked for xyz company. She was in love and wanted to marry with him. He also loved her and there was no problem as such.Everything was fine and they were happy because their parents were ready for the marriage.Meera was very excited as she was going to enter in a new life,a happy married life with a life partner of her choice but she did not know that this is only a dream and her smile is going to be off after a phone call.
That call changed her life. The call was of her boyfriend before one day of her engagement.He refused to marry her just because her parents were not able to give his family the amount they demanded.Meera and her parents tried to convince him but he replied "In our family,we are not allowed to interfere in elder's matter because they are much experienced & responsible and by the way they are not doing anything wrong because it is our right".
The girl loved him very much and these words were just like poison for her. all her dreams were broken up and in depression she chose a horrible way and ended her life by shot herself....the eyes of that beautiful girl was closed forever with lots of unfulfilled dreams.
In my view the way she selected,was wrong. There was also an option in front of her,which was chosen by Maithili (Mahima Choudhary) in the movie LAJJA where she stand up from mandap and ordered them(the groom and his family members) to leave the place.It was a brave decision because they all deserved that.
Meera was just an example but the reality is, in our country million of girls are suffering from this evil and many dowry cases are in our court.There are strong law against it, i am not denying but why the death rate of the girls is not decreasing.There are some questions for the whole country,,,,,,,,
why people are so free to demand for dowry........???
why after many year of independence, girls are not free....???
why the family of a girl has to give money even if they are giving them their beautiful daughter.....???
The main reason behind this evil is the support of the girl's family. They ignore the guilt and give the groom and his family what they want.......
now the question is,why they do not raise their voice against this evil and why people like you and me wake up after the death of meera....why???????
